RI Authors Showcase Begins Next Monday!


With 40 local authors participating in this annual event, there are not only great writers to discover, but daily (sometimes twice daily!) giveaways and some excellent prizes at the end of the event. Drawings for the daily giveaways will take place one week after the blog’s publication, and the winner will be notified by email. The author will coordinate delivery of the prize directly with the winner.

This year’s Grand Prize is a $250 Amazon gift card, just in time for holiday shopping. The Bonus Prize is a $100 Amazon gift card, and new this year we have a “Cheer Up You Won Something” prize that consists of a $50 Amazon gift card PLUS your name as a character in author Tim Baird’s new novel. Those are some great prizes!

Now, I chose Amazon because it’s easy. They sell everything and deliver it to you. But….if you win one of these Amazon prizes and would prefer a gift card to somewhere else, I’ll accommodate you if I can. As long as I can make it happen, I will – so if you would rather give the business to your local bookstore or gift shop, I’ll do what I can.

So! Be sure you’re subscribed to this blog – that way you’ll receive every post straight to your mailbox and you won’t miss out. There will be 40 posts in 30 days (yes, we had such interest that I had to double up). Primary features will appear between 1:00 and 2:00 AM (EST) and if there’s a second post that day, it will drop between 1:00 and 2:00 PM (EST). I’ll share all of the posts to my Facebook page as well.

This is your opportunity to not only win books and gift cards and swag. You can also help an author out by following their pages, subscribing to their newsletters, even buying one of their books if you don’t win it. Most of us are independent authors and always grateful for your support.

See you back here next Monday, where I will kick off the month with my new novel and a sweet little giveaway. Until then, be safe, be kind, be happy!

Coming Soon – The Rhode Island Authors Showcase


November 2021

I’m so excited to announce that this year’s RI Authors Showcase is back! All during the month of November, I’ll be featuring Rhode Island authors (members of the Association of Rhode Island Authors) on this blog. There are 41 authors represented, which means lots of daily giveaways and even better prizes at the end of the month! Here’s how it works:

Each day, and sometimes twice a day, a different author will be featured. We have a rich and varied group of talent, so you’re bound to discover a new author. I’ll tell you a little about the author, his or her book(s), and there is a giveaway associated with every post. Either answer a simple question or just leave a comment and you’re entered into that day’s giveaway. One week after the post is published, I’ll use a random number generator to select a winner from all eligible entries, and the author will then coordinate directly with you regarding delivery. Please note that in all cases, printed books are only available to US residents.

Be sure to comment on each post, because you’ll have up to 41 chances to win our Grand Prize (a $200 Amazon gift card) or our Bonus Prize (a $100 Amazon gift card). And new this year, there will be an additional prize that I’m going to call the Cheer Up You Won Something Prize!

As a loyal follower of this blog, you know that for the past several years I’ve featured Rhode Island authors here in November, and it all leads up to our annual RI Authors Expo.

So, if you’re in the local area, be sure to circle Saturday, December 11 on your calendar, and make a plan to visit over 100 authors. I’ll be there with my new novel. Meanwhile, be sure to subscribe to this blog so you don’t miss even one post! See you in November.

A Playlist for The Summer of Princess Diana


As my novel wends its way through the publication process, I’ve come up with a sweet little playlist to go along with the book. Have a listen!

Bette Davis Eyes by Kim Carnes. Reached #1 in Switzerland, 1981.
The Gambler by Kenny Rogers. Grammy for Best Male Country Vocal Performance, 1980.
Kiss on my List by Hall & Oates. Appeared as the 207th video on MTV’s first day of broadcast, August 1, 1981.
A Woman Needs Love by Ray Parker, Jr. and Raydio. Released in April 1981.
Slow Hand by The Pointer Sisters. Released May 1981.
(There’s) No Gettin’ Over Me by Ronnie Milsap. Released June 1981.
A Little in Love by Cliff Richard. Released December 1980.
Stop Draggin’ My Heart Around by Stevie Nicks and Tom Petty. The 25th video played on MTV’s Launch Day (8/1/81).
While You See a Chance by Steve Winwood. Released February 1981.

Yes, the novel is set in 1981 – 40 years ago! Great music from that time, at least I think so. And MTV launched on August 1 of 1981, so you can witness the infancy of some of these music videos.

I will provide teasers about the book and its characters throughout the coming months, leading up to the release of what will be my 10th novel (and 11th book), and the final (really ) book set in my beloved Switzerland.

Fast and Loose


Photograph by Mathilde Langevin. Used with permission.

For mumble-mumble years, I’ve been addicted to sugar. All my life. From the first taste of my mother’s brownies/cookies/pies/cake, I was hooked. I cleaned a plate of meatloaf, mashed potatoes, and even the dreaded peas because I wouldn’t get dessert unless I ate all my dinner.

An early memory: somehow eating everything in my Easter basket during a visit to my grandparents’ house, and throwing up in the back seat on the way home. Halloween candy gone in days. Sneaking Hershey’s Kisses from the candy dish. Sneaking candy all the time.

Then older: eating M&Ms for dinner, or a pint of Ben & Jerry’s, always washed down with Diet Coke. Sugar sugar. Oh, honey honey. And maple syrup. It felt so good – well, of course. Sugar fuels every cell in the brain. And the sugar rush (yes, it’s a thing), pushing glucose into my blood. Too much.

As I learned more and more about the dangers of elevated blood sugar levels and Type II diabetes, I understood how damaging sugar is. And believe me, I’ve tried quitting many times. Those cravings are real.

Photo by M. Reynolds

Finally, it was enough. We all reach a breaking point. I’ve quit you, sugar, hopefully forever. And I am quickly becoming a fan of intermittent fasting. I’ve started slow and easy – 8 hour window to eat (for me, that’s 8:00 am to 4:00 pm) and a 16-hour fast, during which much of that time I’m asleep, anyway. I’m hoping to add in a 24-hour or up to a 36-hour fast once or twice a month.

Intermittent fasting is not a diet. It will help you lose weight, and it will lower blood sugar levels. There’s plenty of research available online, if you’re interested. Check out Dr. Jason Fung.

A few weeks ago, I had my blood work done. My doctor was very pleased – blood sugar normal (A1c at 5.7). I’m determined to keep it that way. Meanwhile, my clothes are loose. My rings were loose – had them all resized. Unfortunately, my skin is loose, too! But I’m working on that, and would still take the looser skin over any of the other health issues.

This Swiss Chocolate trilogy author no longer wants Toblerone or Cailler bars. Give me Gruyère and Emmanthaler cheese instead!

My Birthday Gift to You


Cover design by Lottie Nevin

I actually started this blog, MarthaReynoldsWrites, on my birthday in 2012. Now, here I am, nine years later and nine years older. Yikes – how the years pass so quickly. Is it that way for you, too? If you’re young, pay attention! Next time you think about it, you’ll be my age, wondering what the heck happened.

Ah, well. Nothing to do about that except enjoy the days, and for me, the writing. I do still enjoy it, even if editing sometimes makes me want to pull my hair out. But my new novel is now with my publisher, so I will relax…and read. And work a little bit on the next book. And think about the one after that. And next year’s A to Z theme. Yeah, it never ends. And that’s a good thing. As long as I can keep writing, I will.

Meanwhile, I wanted to make this book free for five days (Saturday, July 10 through Wednesday, July 14). If you haven’t yet read Villa del Sol, here’s a chance to download a digital copy for free! It’s a good book (if I do say so myself), and it won the 2018 Book Prize in Literary Fiction from the Independent Publishers of New England. That was a big honor, and I’m proud and humbled that the judges liked it enough to award it the prize. And how about that cover? I think it’s the favorite cover of all of my books, and it was hand-drawn by my dear friend Lottie Nevin, who lives in Galicia, Spain with her equally-talented husband Pete. Jim and I dream about visiting them one day.

So, I hope you’re enjoying summer. Some of us have had to endure miserable heat (in the US) and much-lower-than-normal temperatures – that’s because climate change is real, y’all. The world can be a scary place these days – don’t I know it – but that’s why books are necessary. The right book can take you away from your worries and anxieties and transport you to another place. That’s what I try to do. If you like this book (or any of my others), please consider leaving a brief review on Amazon or Goodreads. I don’t like to ask, but it does help me gain some visibility. You know, it’s all about algorithms, apparently. Either way, I’ll have a new novel for you by the end of this year! It’s called The Summer of Princess Diana and I hope you’ll like it.

And if you celebrate a birthday this month, Happy Birthday!

What I Read this Summer


For the past eight years, my summers have been spent mostly editing and rewriting a novel. Not so much this year – the pandemic and everything else has me stymied, and the new novel I’d started in January has languished. Oh, it’ll get done, eventually. So I read more than I usually do, which is also a good thing. Here’s what I read this summer:

The Last Week of May by Roisin Meaney (2007). One of my favorite writers, Roisin Meaney will remind you of the late Maeve Binchy. Great character-driven stories set mostly in Ireland, The Last Week of May centers around May O’Callaghan and her neighbors in the village of Kilpatrick.

The Daughters of Erietown by Connie Schultz (2020). Pulitzer Prize-winning writer Connie Schultz wrote a novel, although it seems to be based in large part on her own family and life. Like another journalist-turned-novelist, Anna Quindlen, Schultz’s writing style is crisp and uncluttered. Loved it.

Life Happens: And Other Unavoidable Truths by Connie Schultz (2006). This book is a compilation of Schultz’s commentaries and columns. Fourteen years after its initial publication, many of the topics are even more timely today – single motherhood, race relations, voting (or not voting).

The Summer Country by Lauren Willig (2019). My husband gave me this book for Christmas, but I didn’t get around to it until the summer (see first paragraph above). It’s an epic tale about generations on the island of Barbados in the 1800s. Lots of characters, and it’s a good idea to make notes about the relationships as you read (the author couldn’t include a family tree because it would spoil the story). The writing is exquisite.

One Summer by Roisin Meaney (2012). I’m making my way through Meaney’s books, a couple at a time. This one is about a young woman named Nell, who moves from Dublin to the island of Roone, off the west coast of Ireland (loosely based on the island of Valentia, off the Kerry coast). Again, a delightful and quirky mix of characters make for a most enjoyable read.

After the Wedding by Roisin Meaney (2014). This is a sequel to One Summer, so as soon as I’d finished reading One Summer, I downloaded this one. The reader is taken again to the island of Roone, to continue the stories set up in the first book. Meaney’s books are best enjoyed with a cup of tea and a soft blanket (or pet) in your lap.

The Admissions by Meg Mitchell Moore (2015). Wow. This book hooked me right from the start, and the tension didn’t let up! This is a great story about modern-day parents and kids under pressure to achieve. The Hawthornes may look like the perfect family, but underneath the veneer there’s all kinds of angst and desperation, and secrets!

The Last Bathing Beauty by Amy Sue Nathan (2020). I read this one all the way through (because it takes a lot for me to give up on a book), and I liked it enough, but it did feel like there was way too much telling and not enough showing (Writing 101). At time it felt as though I was reading a screenplay.

Cleo McDougal Regrets Nothing by Allison Winn Scotch (2020). I’m glad I stayed with this book, because it was worth it. Cleo McDougal will annoy you – because she’s flawed! But you’ll find yourself totally invested, and rooting for her redemption. I loved it.

Stay by Catherine Ryan Hyde (2019). Another of my favorite authors, it feels as though she writes just for me. What a gift she has for telling a story. This one is set in the summer of 1969 and features a 14-year-old boy, Lucas Painter, at the center. Can I just say that Hyde captures the spirit of this teenaged boy perfectly?

The New Girl by Daniel Silva (2019). Both my husband and my cousin Becky are big fans of Daniel Silva. I had never read any of his books, but after my husband finished it, I decided it would be my next read. Okay, so now I’m a fan, too. I wasn’t sure I’d take to this thriller, but Silva kept my attention through every twist and turn on the page. I will definitely be reading more.

Something in Common by Roisin Meaney (2013). Another by Meaney, this one between aspiring writer Sarah and hard-edged journalist Helen. Meaney doesn’t feel obligated to give us the cliched happy-ever-after. That’s the easy way. Instead, she tells a more realistic story that will challenge you at every turn. She’s brilliant. Full stop.

The Heartbreak Café by Melissa Hill (2011). I can’t remember who recommended Melissa Hill to me. Maybe just as well. I tried, but I couldn’t finish it. There were way too many grammatical errors and the plot was going nowhere. It’s hard to quit a book, but I needed to move on from this.

28 Summers by Elin Hildebrand (2020). Inspired by the movie “Same Time, Next Year,” Hilderbrand creates her own story based on , of course, her beloved Nantucket island. Hilderbrand is called the ‘Queen of the Beach Read,’ with good reason.

The Lost Letter by Jillian Cantor 2017).  I did enjoy reading this book. It felt like it was meticulously researched, and told a compelling story – something a bit different about the Resistance. But…..here’s my pet peeve. When an author uses a phrase or word too often, it settles in my mind and takes away from the enjoyment of reading. In this case, it was ‘a little.’ There are 148 instances of ‘a little’ in this book – too much! Her editor should have picked up on it. Smiled a little, shivered a little, laughed a little. Ugh.

The Reunion by Roisin Meaney (2016). Listen, Meaney’s books are quick reads, that’s why I could tear through them. Plus, I hated to put them down! Returning to a Roisin Meaney novel is one of the best things I can do for myself. I lose myself in her characters, people you wish you knew personally. I indulge in the plot, not cliched or predictable. I revel in the descriptions of places and food.

The Nanny Diaries by Emma Mclaughlin and Nicola Kraus (2002). I returned to this book for research purposes (my new novel is about a nanny). I remember grabbing it from the library nearly twenty years ago – what a delicious read! Still great, if a little dated.

The Matchmaker by Elin Hilderbrand (2014). Some of Hilderbrand’s most fervent fans did not like this book. I loved it. Delving into uncomfortable topics is a good thing – I felt all of it, from Agnes’s relationship with CJ, to Dabney’s relationship with Box. All of it. If you can make the reader cry at the end, to me that’s success! Well done.

An Address in Amsterdam by Mary Dingee Fillmore (2016). It was clear the author did meticulous research for this book. Set in Amsterdam during the World War II years, it tells a story about Rachel, an 18-year-old Jewish girl who sees the atrocities happening to her Jewish friends and neighbors and gets involved in the Resistance. Excellent descriptions of the area (the author lived for a time in Amsterdam). There were a couple of graphic sexual references that just didn’t fit, but otherwise a must-read.

Have You Seen Luis Velez? by Catherine Ryan Hyde (2019). Unusual title, right? There’s a line in the book that really stayed with me: “People judge you by your most controversial half.” The central character, Raymond (17) is bi-racial and wondering where he belongs. His 92-year-old friend Millie was the daughter of a Jewish mother and non-Jewish father, which impacted her young life at the start of World War II. Together they find a way to reconcile their guilt and fear. This is a beautiful story, as always.

Love in the Present Tense by Catherine Ryan Hyde (2007). Early CRH! I found the pacing a bit slow, but I really liked the characters. It’s about the bond between a five-year-old boy abandoned by his mother and the man who ends up raising him.

The Vanishing Half by Brit Bennett (2020). Well, this book kept me up all night recently. I could not put it down. Wasn’t even sleepy. Yes, it’s that good. Gorgeous, lyrical prose. Some say it’s reminiscent of Toni Morrison’s The Bluest Eye, which I now need to read.

The Castaways by Elin Hilderbrand (2009). Back when she was writing a Nantucket “series,” this was the second book out of three. I didn’t read her books in order, but it didn’t matter. I liked this one a lot, because it brought out the characters so well.

Two Fridays in April by Roisin Meaney (2015). You can see that I read a lot of Meaney and Hilderbrand. Perhaps because they’re both so well suited to summer reading. Every one of Roisin Meaney’s books is a gem.

The Island by Elin Hilderbrand (2010). I picked this one from my library. While nearly all of Hilderbrand’s novels take place on Nantucket, this one actually is set on Tuckernuck, a little spot of land just off Nantucket, owned by its summer residents and lacking paved roads and public utilities. Perfect spot for a mother to bring her two grown daughters and her widowed sister, where, without the distractions of modern-day life, the women are forced into introspection.

The Daisy Picker by Roisin Meaney (2004). This was Meaney’s first novel, and it’s a good one! Main character Lizzie, 41, is stuck in a rut, with a dead-end job and a reluctant fiancé. After seeing a magazine article about regrets, Lizzie decides to pack it in, leave her parents’ home, and drive 80 miles away to start a new adventure. Bravo, Lizzie!

Rogue’s Isles by Thomas Briody (1995). How did I not know about this book?? Thanks to Stillwater Books in Pawtucket, Rhode Island https://www.stillwaterbooksri.com/ I found Tom Briody’s novel, loosely (very loosely) based on the credit union crisis and subsequent disappearance of the notorious Joseph Mollicone on the early 1990s. A great read!

Someday, Someday, Maybe by Lauren Graham (2013). I remember when this book was released, saying I wanted to read it. Well, seven years later, I got around to it. Graham is best known as Lorelei Gilmore on “The Gilmore Girls” and Sarah Braverman on “Parenthood.” It seems to be semi-autobiographical, and is definitely in the voice of Graham/Gilmore/Braverman. Funny, light (mostly), and touching, it defines the hopefulness of a newcomer in New York City, hoping to make it big.

Modern Lovers by Emma Straub (2016). I had this book at the cottage last week, and spent many days by the pool. I stuck with it, but I did find myself turning pages rapidly, just to get through a chapter. The plot was somewhat compelling, and the characters were okay, but I don’t think I’ll remember much about this book.

Okay, I counted 29 books – I don’t think I’ve read that much in a summer since I was eight years old. How about you? What did you read that you loved? Any recommendations?

Twins Tim and Fred Williams


The first six months of 2020 brought enough bad news to fill a couple of decades, right? It takes effort some days to find something good, something that will make you smile. At least that’s been my experience.

So I turned to reading – a lot of books, and I’ll use a different post to write about the books I’ve read these past months. My husband and I watch Netflix and Amazon Prime – choosing travel and food shows, classic movies, documentaries. I’ve been poking around YouTube as well, and last week I found this channel, and I couldn’t be happier.

“Twins the New Trend” is the channel of twins Tim and Fred Williams, 22-year-old Gary, Indiana natives whose musical knowledge was mostly limited to rap. They post their reactions to songs, usually classics recommended to them by their subscribers. (I didn’t know this was a thing! But apparently it is – of course, because everything is on YouTube).

Anyway, on July 27, after their channel had been up and running for months, they reacted to Phil Collins’s “In the Air Tonight,” a song that goes back to 1981, when I was 23 and the twins hadn’t been born yet (possible their mother hadn’t been born yet). Their reaction to the drum solo at three minutes in is priceless. Watch:

Well, that video went viral on Twitter, and within a couple of weeks, the twins have seen their subscriber count rise by hundreds of thousands. What makes these young men so appealing is their honesty and open-minded attitude towards all genres of music. It’s refreshing and fills me with hope. They listen to the song. Watch how they react to Dolly Parton’s “Jolene,” a song that is nearly 50 years old – and country!

Tim (usually seen on the left, or by himself) and his twin brother Fred, are willing to watch anything, and their fans have given them plenty of suggestions. The men have reacted to Luciano Pavarotti, Frank Sinatra, Adele, Eminem, Queen, The Carpenters, and Elvis:

So why are they so successful? Why do they have more than 427,000 subscribers? I don’t know. Maybe it’s people like me watching someone younger react for the first time to a song I know so well. Maybe it’s because they’re young Black men who decided to open their minds (and ears) to something besides rap, and we’re seeing their honest reactions. Maybe it’s because, in their younger selves, we can relive our own wondrous younger days that were filled with songs on the radio. For whatever reason, this past week has given me a few things that have filled me with hope, and the twins are one of them.

A Playlist for THE WAY TO REMEMBERt


As you probably know, I re-released my 2015 novel Best Seller after Amazon determined the title was “misleading.” Yeah, but I’m over it now. The Way to Remember is the same book, tightened up a bit, and with a new title and new cover.

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The story takes place in 1976, so I thought it would be fun to make a playlist based on the book. I hope you enjoy this travel back in time!

“Fame” by David Bowie. The song was released in on Bowie’s 1975 album Young Americans. This video is from 1978, a few years after Robin Fortune’s initial adventure.

“Afternoon Delight” by the Starland Vocal Band. It reached #1 on July 10, 1976. Songwriter Bill Danoff (a member of the group) said he didn’t want to write an all-out ‘sex song,’ just ‘something that was fun and hinted at sex.’

“Don’t Go Breaking My Heart” by Elton John and Kiki Dee. Released on June 21, 1976. Elton john and his lyric-writing partner Bernie Taupin originally intended for Dusty Springfield to record the song with Sir Elton, but she was unable to do it, and they turned to Kiki Dee, a British singer mostly unknown in the US.

“Kiss and Say Goodbye” by The Manhattans. This song was released in March 1976 and became a worldwide success, hitting #1 in the US, Belgium, the Netherlands, and New Zealand.

“Love Hurts” by Nazareth. It reached #8 in early 1976. This is the same song that was recorded by The Everly Brothers in 1960, but with a much different sound! (You might want to look into the other version to compare).

Theme from Mahogany (“Do You Know Where You’re Going To?) by Diana Ross. It was released on September 24, 1975.

“Let Your Love Flow” by the Bellamy Brothers, a country duo who achieved international success with this song. It was released in January 1976. Both Neil Diamond and Johnny Rivers passed on recording it.

“Evil Woman” by the Electric Light Orchestra (ELO). This song was released in October 1975 on the band’s fifth album, Face the Music. Lead vocalist Jeff Lynne wrote the song in thirty minutes.

“Get Closer” by Seals and Crofts, released in April 1976. Billboard ranked it as the #16 song of 1976. Carolyn Willis of the group Honey Cone is the featured vocalist.

“Love is Alive” by Gary Wright. Released in April 1976. It spent 27 weeks on the Billboard Hot 100 chart, and was ranked the #9 song of 1976.

“Fly Robin Fly” by the German disco group Silver Convention, released 1975. Owing to the success of this song, Silver Convention became the first German act to have a number one song on American music charts.

And there’s your travel back to the mid-70s! I hope you enjoyed this little playlist. And I’m working on a new playlist to go along with my novel-in-progress, The Summer of Princess Diana. 

Be well.

Best Seller Repackaged


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About four years ago, I wrote a book and called it Best Seller. It enjoyed some success and more than a few kind reviews. It was one of the nine novels I’ve written, and one of my favorites.

Last November, I received word from Amazon (where most of my books are sold) that they had a problem with the book’s title. They deemed it ‘misleading,’ and advised me that unless I changed it in a few days, they would remove the book from their selling platform.

Wait, what? What??? The book was up for sale for years, and now Amazon decides it’s got a misleading title? And by the way, it wasn’t misleading at all. The words ‘a novel’ were right beneath the title. And, in one of many telephone calls I had with staff at Amazon, I assured them that the novel had never achieved its optimistically titled status.

Didn’t matter. We emailed back and forth numerous times, and I spoke with as many as six different service agents, but the answer always came back the same. And a week later, poof! Best Seller, and all of its reviews, were gone.

Now, I’ve re-released the book. It’s got a different name – The Way to Remember is the name of the book the main character, Robin, is working on – and a new cover. The book’s contents are the same, with just some minor tweaking to, I hope, make it better.

For many of you who read this blog, you probably already purchased and read the book years ago, so I don’t want to trick you into thinking it’s new. It’s not, and the novel I’m working on these days won’t be ready until the end of this year (if I can finish it).

However, if I can find your old review (I was able to take some screenshots before it disappeared), I will be reaching out to you, asking you to post that review again. Because reviews are so, so important to authors. I’m hoping you’ll be willing.

Anyway, that’s my news for the middle of 2020. What a year, right? I hope you’re doing okay – physically, mentally, emotionally. It has been challenging, certainly for me on all of those fronts. Be well, stay safe, wear your face covering.

Mothers and Daughters


Every mother-daughter relationship is unique. Complex. Some of these relationships evolve over time, if there is enough time to evolve.

My mom in Bermuda, around 1938

I looked up to her, then I didn’t. I resented that she was so strict – my friends’ moms seemed so much cooler. More permissive, certainly. By the time I got to college, I distanced myself – I could do what I wanted without her constantly looking over my shoulder. I was free to screw up as much as I wanted.

My parents on their wedding day, 1955

I asked if I could spend my junior year at the University of Fribourg in Switzerland. It was a program offered by my college, and many of my friends, all of us liberal arts majors, were going. Surprisingly, my parents said okay, and off I went.

On the day after Easter that year, my father died of a massive heart attack. My mother was a widow at 50. Three daughters – my older sister just out of college, me overseas and unreachable, and my younger sister still in high school. A widow at 50. Her parents were still alive. She had two brothers, but they both had their own issues. She was forced into doing all the things her husband had always done. Lawyers, accountants. Who will mow the lawn, service the car, pay the bills?

Mom around 1987, age 58

She learned to live on her own. Eventually her daughters moved out, she moved to a condo, and loved quilting. Her membership in the Narragansett Bay Quilters’ Association gave her purpose in her newly-single life. But she missed Jack every day.

Mom doing what she loved

It was around 20 years ago that my sisters and I noticed some changes in her behavior. She had no recollection of an event that we had participated in just a couple of years earlier. My sisters and I finally got her to agree to a test, and the diagnosis was fronto-temporal dementia. How cruel! This brilliant woman, who did crossword puzzles in pen, who taught me to love language and words, who majored in mathematics at Pembroke, was slowly losing her memory and cognitive abilities. I’m grateful that we, and my husband and brother-in-law, were able to surround her with love as she passed.

I think one of the reasons our relationship was a challenge (before I grew up and it wasn’t) was that we were more alike than either of us could admit. As she became more childlike with her disease, it fell to her daughters to be the caregivers, to mother the mother. We did, all three of us. We are Joyce’s girls, always.