We’re still trying to process everything that has happened in the past forty-eight hours. I so wanted us – especially Jim – to have a vacation. The caregiver needs respite and we thought it would be okay to go.
My father-in-law died early this morning. He was in the Philip Hulitar Hospice Unit, thanks to my wonderful sister Mary Beth. He didn’t die alone. We were in Charlottetown, Prince Edward Island, Canada. It took two days to drive there, long drives. So ten hours after arriving, I packed up our stuff and we headed back,
Tonight we’re in Machias, on the Maine coast. We’ll be home tomorrow. Meanwhile, I’m taking care of my husband. That’s as much as I can write this evening.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Martha. Sending my thoughts to you and your husband.
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Thank you so much, Wendy. We are adjusting to this new reality.
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Martha, this is very sad news. I’m so sorry. Hold on to the happy, good memories. Sending you all much love ❤️ xxx
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Lottie, we were so heartbroken to not have been with him, even as we knew there are no guarantees. We never would have gone away (and so far away) had we thought he was near death. Thank you. ❤
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Martha – I am so sorry to read this sad news. Thinking of you and Jim. – Amy
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Thanks, Amy.
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So sorry Martha and Jim. Thinking of you both and sending our love and prayers.
Nancy and Mark (Cameron) Brutzman
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Thanks so much, Nancy.
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So sorry for your loss. It’s been almost 30 years since both of my parents have gone. Healing takes time.
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Thank you, Denise.
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Martha – To both you and Jim, Charley and I send our sincere condolences. The passing of a generation in the loss of a loved one is a twofold sadness.
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Thank you so much, Clare.
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Hugs, its a sad time. Memories are wonderful. God Bless
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Lots of memories. Thanks, Helen.
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My condolences to you and yours, Martha. Big hugs. Denise
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Thank you, Denise ❤️❤️❤️
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I’m so sorry to read this, Martha. My deepest condolences to you and Jim.
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Thanks, Tracie.
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Hi Martha. I haven’t checked my email all week and was arrested by the title of yours. I am so sorry for Jim’s and your loss. It was surprising and all too relatable because I lost my dad, my last parent, on Monday. I hope both dads have already met up in heaven.
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Oh, Mary Ellen. I’m so sorry. You were such a comfort to me when my dad died. Sending you my love.
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So sorry for your loss Martha. This end of life process is so very challenging. I pray you and Jim can take comfort in the knowledge you cared for his Dad but also cared for yourselves. This is not easy but is so very necessary for the fullness of life. As you grieve, go gently.
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Kind and wise words, Ann. Thank you so much.
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Dear Martha – one just never knows and I’m so sorry to read this … be safe, take care and do what you’re doing – taking care of your husband … with thoughts – Hilary
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Thanks, Hilary 💙💙💙
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Love, prayers, comfort, peace, hugs to the whole family. Blessings be upon your father-in-law’s head as he begins the next leg of his journey.
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Thank you, Cheryl.
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My condolences to you and your family, Martha.
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Thanks, Deb.
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Martha and Jim, I am so saddened by our loss. May your fondest memories of Jim’s father, help you through this difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Debbie Samolyk MacMillan
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Martha,
My condolences to you & Jim. Please know his love and spirit is eternal, watch for signs from him. He will bless and guide you on your journey home. Keeping you in my thoughts & prayers. 💕
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Martha I’m so sorry. As one of your friends noted, maybe your father in law thought it would be easier for you and your husband this way. I didn’t realize you were even going through all of this. Prayers and hugs to you and your family at this difficult time. I love the picture by the way! I bet your father in law did too.
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So sorry to hear this Mz. Martha. Prayers and hugs sending your way. Blessings ❤
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Thank you for letting us know…we share your heartfelt feelings and loss. A candle is lit and will remain so until you and Jim return safely. Bless Beth , Jim and you…feel our love surround you all!
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Martha and Jim,
I’m so sorry to read this. Take care in driving home, and know that many people will be carrying warm thoughts for you.
Lila
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So sorry Martha and Jim. Thinking of you both.
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I’m so sorry Martha. Saying goodbye is never easy whether we are nearby or far away. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Jim.
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I’m so sorry for your loss, Martha.
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Martha, I am so sorry. My heart is broken for you and Jim. I know you’ve delayed any extended time away while you & Jim cared for his father. Please consider that your father-in-law may have thought it would be easier for Jim this way. Who knows how the spirit works. Please pass my sincere condolences to Jim. My thoughts are with you both. Love you both, Cindy
Sent from Cindy’s iPhone
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Oh Jim and Martha I am sorry. I know how hard it is. Sending you both hugs.
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Martha, I’m very sorry. Prayers for all of you.
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I’m sorry for your loss. 😞
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Peace be with you.
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My sincere condolences to both of you and all of your family on this monumental loss.
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So sorry to hear, Martha. My thoughts are with you and Jim.
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I am so sorry. Hugs 😢
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Oh Martha, I am so, so sorry. Please know that I’m praying peace and comfort over you and Jim.
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