Are You Happy?

photo by M. Reynolds

photo by M. Reynolds

photo by M. Reynolds

photo by M. Reynolds

I promise this post will not be a downer! In spite of March being a grief-filled month from my point of view, we can all work toward more happiness.

But what is happy to you? Consider Pharrell Williams’s much-viewed video for the song, “Happy.” Go ahead, I’ll wait.

It’s catchy, yes. You want to watch it again. Pharrell Williams keeps you engaged, that’s for sure. Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof.

But what makes you happy? Wealth? A promotion at work? Your kid getting into the top law school? How do you define happiness for yourself?

Good health is way up there, especially as we age. Friends and acquaintances have passed this month (no one over the age of 60).

Family? Friends? True love? Where does your wellspring of good feeling come from? David Steindl-Rast, a Catholic Benedictine monk in upstate New York, says this: “We all know people who have lots of misfortune…and they are deeply happy! Why? Because they’re grateful. It’s gratefulness that makes you happy. Grateful living is the thing. Every moment is a given moment. There is no way of assuring there will be another moment given to you. This moment is a gift. What we’re really grateful for is the opportunity. If we avail ourselves of the opportunity, it is the key to happiness.”

Find your happiness in everyday moments, and in the opportunity each of these given moments presents.

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7 Comments

Martha, this is so sad about you losing loved ones and friends. Here’s a HUGE virtual HUG for you. On happiness, I’ve always found that it’s the little things that make me happy, and I echo Clarissa in for example a cup of coffee, the dog nuzzling me for breakfast, the sunshine, and here in the south of Spain after a cold, wet winter, when the almond blossom came out a few weeks ago, I literally burst with happiness! It’s a jolly good thing that I don’t rely on money for happiness as I’ve never had much! and yes, I agree that being grateful goes along way to making us happier. Appreciating what we have and not moaning about what we don’t have. 😀 xxxxx

I was just dancing around the houses singing that song as I put dinner in the oven. It’s a nice lamb roast with loads of veggies. My daughter just finished an assignment (She was singing along), I churned out some serious words today for a novella, the sun is shining…it’s a good day and that’s something to be happy about.

David Steindl-Rast hits it on the nail. People wonder how I keep happy and still laugh as much as I do considering the disasters in my life! But it’s the only way to be and I am grateful for the joys I do have. That’s not to say I manage it all the time but I know that by approaching life that way, I have a better chance of getting through. I do hope your grief is lessening. It’s been a tough few weeks for so many people I know and to lose friends and loved ones too young is heavy to bear.

You are so right about “gratefulness”! Now that I am older, happiness is walking into the shower, unassisted, making a great cup of coffee, and drinking it outside as my dogs flirt for their breakfast and the light begins to glow in the eastern sky…

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