A Cup o’ Kindness

Reflections on 2012:

  • I became a published author! Finally realized a dream, one that followed me for decades through jobs that weren’t suited to my abilities (but jobs I did well anyway). It was after the lowest point in my professional life, one that still hurts to revisit, that I learned to follow my passion. And I learned a lot about the state of publishing today: I made mistakes, but along the way I also connected with some wonderfully thoughtful and supportive writers. Independent authors understand other indies. They provide words of encouragement. They cheerlead. They get it. Sadly, a few traditionally published authors let me down, big time. They may do well to recall the times when they were just starting out.
  • We made some major adjustments in the way we live. As a couple with no children and nearly zero debt, my husband and I had lived well when I was employed. We saved a lot but enjoyed what was left. I no longer receive a hefty paycheck every other week. And the economy is, well, precarious to say the least. Sharing a cup of coffee on the promontory of rocks at Beavertail Lighthouse, watching the Atlantic Ocean rush in as the sun lowers itself to the horizon, is a priceless indulgence.
  • Mended a fence or two with estranged friends. Sometimes a misunderstanding or miscommunication (especially through e-mail) can create a crack. That crack can turn into an abyss over time. Some friendships are worth saving – reach out and make the first move if it matters less who is right or wrong. That being said, let some relationships go. Moving on occasionally means releasing those who can’t move with you, and anyone who simply brings you down isn’t worth the trouble.
  • I read a lot of books. You want to be a better writer? Keep reading. Get an e-reader or stick with printed books, or choose both. Read whatever you like. Just read.
  • So much violence, so many heartbreakingly sad news stories. Nothing will change without meaningful discussion, and it’s not just about guns. It’s also about mental health and how we treat it. It’s about the desensitization of violence through movies and video games. And, of course, it’s about money.
  • I’d still love to retire to Switzerland. A couple of women I know have married and moved there, and yes, I know it’s not Utopia. Either way, I’ll keep dreaming about a return visit.
  • I’m going to stop at 400 words, because someone once told me to keep my blog at 400. Wishing you peace, warmth, love, and health for 2013. I raise my cup o’ kindness to you with this beautiful rendition by my favorite singer:

25 thoughts on “A Cup o’ Kindness

  1. I’m so glad to have met you, Martha! It’s been so very interesting following you, your thoughts and your success in 2012. So close & yet so far – we live in the same town. We met in cyberspace but not yet in meatspace! Please don’t move to Switzerland before we have a chance to have coffee! Sending you warm wishes for a healthy, happy and prosperous 2013! Cheers!


  2. Wishing you a happy and healthy 2013! Thank you for sharing your memories of 2012! Like you, a lot of my positive memories are around writing and the on-line community people I discovered such as people like you you! Amen! What a blessing! Be well, my friend. xo cindy


    1. Thank you, Lottie! Connecting with you this year has brought me laughter and an appreciation of your fabulous photography. One day you and I will clink glasses. xxx


  3. I love this list! As for retiring to Switzerland – why not? Eyes on the prize Kiddo, eyes on the prize. If anyone can pull it off you can!
    I’m looking forward to following all of your adventures – big and small – in 2013!


  4. So often I read your words and I want to comment but don’t take the time. I have learned a lot about you through your experiences that you have shared. I have laughed and cried. I have been greatful,that at times, you have had an angel watching over you…bringing you home safely. You and I share many of the same views on what is important in ones life. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Count your blessings. Live. Love. Laugh. 🙂 One day soon, in 2013, we will lessen the miles between us and enjoy lunch and laughter…because we can! Happy New Year Martha! Keep writing! See you soon! Love me! ❤.


    1. Thank you, my dear friend. I look forward to that day, too. Some days are beautiful in their simplicity, others test my strength. As they do for all of us. Miss you, love you! xxx And thank you for reading 🙂


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